Habits

We have an entire world to explore, understand and exploit – for our own good sake.  Since the first moment of our existence we are flooded and sometimes drowned in the huge variety and complexity of the surrounding world.

As children we are guided by parents and teachers to find the first paths within the maze of life.  We are embedded good behavior rules – actually the essence of our predecessors’’ experience.  We are imposed formulas by which we can explore the universe or ensure our protection in nature or society.

As teenagers, fed up by constant advice, we rebel, demolish the wisdom of our elders and organize our own expedition toward the answers to represent us and provide satisfaction as we see it.  Many times we can find a new balance between our desires and the rest of the world.

As adults, gradually and unknowingly, we surround ourselves with habits that draw our own manner to live.  Many habits represent our private comfort zone. What we often don’t realize is that these habits (I deliberately avoid the term rules) enforce a compromise.  The compromise to cease exploring and to get content with predictability and lack of conflict with ourselves and/or others.

To prove my point that we are all governed by habits, here are some casual examples:

  • Coffee/tea daily ritual
  • Books or movies preferred
  • Circle of friends and its regular group activities
  • Destination and relaxation activities during the annual holiday

Even the habits mentioned above, harmless and intimate as they are, deny us a certain level of adventure and novelty available to all of us.  They place us inside a comfy bubble that becomes self-sufficient.  We lose our curiosity and we give up on the chance to find yet another area of interest and fulfillment.

As it happens we immerse in a flat, boring and self-restrictive routine.  We become blasé and enemies of anything not included in our habits.  We slowly walk to the stage where we will patronizingly impose good behavior rules to the following generations of youngsters.

 “Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.”
Warren Buffett